If You Don't Like ' FAKE ' People, then STOP BEING ONE.

We live in a world today that not only goes through mountains of physical pain, but one that continues the battle of the pain of a few simple words. Today, a person crossed my path who swore up and down that someone betrayed them, in a sense, to which they are having to face consequences.. I don't feel bad for them. At all.

I truly believe that there a lot of problems that we face in today's society that we bring upon ourselves. Whether we think we do or not. There are those who are older and wiser, and of course with age comes wisdom.. I don't care if you're out there judging me because I'm young, because I had child out of wedlock, or I have 2 children before age 25.. Even if you are though, where did it come from that you or I have a say in how someone chooses to live their life? 

Girls talk, guys talk, people say things they mean, things they don't. However, words can hurt. Yet my point is to say that some of us learn to GROW UP, while others choose to pick a part those around us just to feel better about ourselves.

Can someone please explain that to me? Because I don't understand it. 

I do what I can to avoid gossip, to stay away from those who create this environment where you feel like you need to walk on eggshells, or where you're afraid to be who you are just because someone may say something bad about you.

Ask people I surround myself around, ask people I work with, ask my family, well most of my family ( we all have our issues but still), I am a genuinely happy and positive person. 

It's not easy removing yourself from those who bring you down, but trust me the second that you get that "crap" out of your life, you'll be genuinely happy, and that I can promise.

"Not everyone is meant to be on the red carpet beside you." 

I hate to say it, but some people just aren't meant to make it to the red carpet, because they haven't chosen to grow up. 

Do yourself a favor. Look in the mirror and all that bad stuff that you're picking apart in other people, it's what you're not recognizing in yourself.

Don't get me wrong, I am guilty of doing the above. But I have grown up, and I have learned that there are things better left unsaid. I have also chosen the path of "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it." 

I just hope others are ready to do the same. 

Too many people are being hurt, because others aren't being real.

So if you don't like "fake people" stop being one.

You'll be surprised how many great people you will meet, that are real.

A child loves forever

 I shared this picture on Facebook the other day. Mainly because in my case it couldn't be more true, given our son is only three. Lol. 

Anyway, I want to talk about being a mom and how the sacrifices are worth the unending love of a child. 

I don't sleep much, actually I should be sleeping now because the one month old is snoring next to me on the couch while the toddler is sleeping lightly at the other end of the couch. But I feel that what I will write is important. 

I'm young, 23, with two boys that mean the world to me. While most of the people my age are graduating college, getting engaged, or just now experiencing the excitement of becoming parents,.. I'm over here raising a couple of boys and just trying to enjoy what I've got. 

With that said, I want the parents, and parents to be, to know that when the time comes and you have to leave "the fun stuff" (whether it be drinking, partying, etc) behind to take care of your kids, you will realize it's worth it. A child is going to love his/her parents for the rest of their lives, even if that parent may not deserve it. Unconditionally.  (Hopefully that's not you..if you know what I mean.)

I want parents to know that having a kid or two is going to change your life forever in the best possible way. There will be sleepless nights, nights where you're at the ER for hours only to leave ten minutes after being seen.. But there is also the moments when you see your child smile or laugh for the first time, the first word (usually mama or dada), there's going to be that Christmas when they tell you what they want Santa to bring and the hope you see in their eyes when you put them on santas lap...

Call me cliche or cheesy but a girls night would be great where I could laugh it up with a few good friends an a couple of drinks, but nothing compares to my sons bear hugs, and the other son's sweet smile. Along with the love from my husband & my boys, I just can't imagine anything that could make me happier. 

And if you're a parent you know what I mean, and if you're about to become parents, unconditional love is what you get to look forward to. And you'll be the child's hero forever. 

So if you're not ready to sacrifice the hangovers from your late nights, the club scene, the 5 beers nightly, or eight hours of sleep--maybe mom life or dad life isn't for you. But if you are, you've got tons of firsts to look forward to, playing Santa, Easter bunny, and tooth fairy.. (Seriously shop early for everything!) you'll gain a person that will love you forever. 

I know that even though you may feel like you're sacrificing something, you will gain SO MUCH MORE.